Do you want to make a difference in life?

Grandpa: Have you finished your dinner?

Pratap: No grandpa.

Grandpa: Ok. Come,we will share my dinner.

Pratap:  No grandpa, You eat. You have to take tablets.

Grandpa: If you don’t eat, I will throw the food into the dustbin.

                   Then Pratap obliged the grandpa’s words and both shared their dinner. Pratap was travelling that night to see his mom. He has to catch the bus to go to his hometown. Since it was not Pratap’s  usual dinner time, he planned to skip the dinner and  start on an empty stomach, the above conversation took place then.

          Now you all would wonder, oh what a beautiful love and affection between the Grandpa and his Grandson. Yes, this is beautiful and much more soulful, when you come to know that Pratap is not Grandpa’s original Grandson. Pratap is the caregiver who has been deputed to take care of grandpa.

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                            Grandpa was in a state of grief after losing his wife. His daughter married and settled aboard. He was feeling lonely with his son and daughter-in-law working and was unable to spend time with Grandpa. The son was helpless as he was unable to spend time with his father as he has to run his business, of course for everyone in the family including Grandpa. But this did not let him to forget his duty to take care of his father. He contacted Naamcare who are into Eldercare services.

                           The son explained the Eldercare service provider about his requirement of a male caretaker who would take care of his father 24×7 as he was having mobility problems. After carefully analyzing the conditions of the grandpa, Pratap who was well trained to address the elders problem, was deputed. Grandpa was very reticent during the first meeting.

                           The first few words from Pratap were, “Do you like me grandpa?” That was enough for the person who was toiling under loneliness. A young guy like Pratap who was passionate in his service to elders, could understand the need of the hour for the elder and accordingly initiated his first conversation with the grandpa. Slowly and gradually grandpa was able to come out of his loneliness by trusting Pratap, that he is indeed a person with whom he shares and rely for his needs both physically helping in moving around as well as helping him emotionally to drain out his grief. Grandpa’s son and daughter are happy about grandpa’s change.

                           Pratap who is in his growing phase, is well guided by grandpa, through his various life experiences. Is this not a healthy living in our society? The Joint family system being dismantled, services such as this kind of Home care Service providers ensure to have the parents with their children instead of being sent to old age homes.

Grandpa and Pratap now spread happiness in their respective families equally.
Thus we are a contented service provider making a difference in the life of the elders and their family and people around them.

                  Naamcare provides both medical like doctor home visits, nursing care and caretakers and non-medical services like geriatric food, companionship services for elders. Naamcare has also has customized membership packages on quarterly, half-yearly or annual packages.

 

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Convincing a loved one to get Home Care

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Surprisingly, many family members resist in home care. Frequently our aging parents refuse help, despite their desire to remain at home. Mom or Dad often express that outside help is not necessary and that they are capable of managing on their own. Hiring a caregiver is seen by many seniors as a threat to their independence and an invasion of privacy. Please see below for some suggestions on how to approach the subject with your loved ones.

1. Work with the more independent parent

In most homes there is a more independent parent. When both parents live in the home together, it can be beneficial to advise that the other parents will benefit from this additional support (when in truth both will).  This can help alleviate some of the distress and influence the decision making process.

2. Get the caregiver’s foot in the door

Secondly, suggest hiring a caregiver to manage a few household chores and NOT actual hands-on care or personal assistance. This can be seen as minimal help and less threatening to independence. This entrance into the home can expand into other services. The emphasis on the household chores and cooking / food shopping is an easy discussion. Once they see the value add of this caregiver and build a trusting relationship, it will be easy to ensure they get the help they need.

3. Explain to your parent that you need help

When a parent lives alone or with you, discuss how you need help and assistance in the home for peace of mind. Explain to your parent that it would not only reduce your concerns, but also alleviate some of the tasks you are required to do. An easy suggestion can be a housekeeper to reduce managing daily household chores (cleaning, shopping, meals, and laundry). Many times family members are working caregivers, so suggest that by having a companion stay or assist with these tasks would relieve your of worries.

4. Call a trusted professional

Seeking help and advice is never a bad thing. Finding a  trusted professional that your parents respect may lead to them heading the advice. It might be surprising their willingness to accept the advice of a long time family physician, a former or current home health nurse, or a family friend in the medical field. This individual can be used to sway your parents opinions and relay your concerns.

5. Resistance is not Personal

In many families, your conflicting role as the child and caregiver hinder your well-meaning attempts at helping your parents. The basis for your actions should not be confused by misguided guilt. Therefore, do not take their rebuttals personally or offensively, but rather focus on a necessary means to an end.